Ode To A Wonderful Man-Rick Volner Sr.

There comes a time in life when you truly begin to realize the fortunate things you have and putting aside the negatives that try to get you to “forget” those great fortunes.

One of mine would be my husband, Rick Volner Sr.  My husband and I met believe it or not online and it turned out (ironically) we worked for the same company and never knew it or ever crossed each others path.  After chatting our first day online both of us had to leave for work and that was when we found out, we worked at the same place.  We starting dating September 3rd of 2000.  Please do not credit me with remembering the exact day because it is my husband who has a mind trap for dates 🙂 .  In fact as I am writing this I had to ask him and he just blurted it out without a thought!

When we first met I had my “doubts” simply because he was 15 years older than myself.  I tried terribly to “talk myself” out of dating him but he made that very difficult.  He is kind, gentle, funny, smart, faithful, goofy, loving, loyal, compassionate and has a LOT of patience.  That last one is a huge requirement to be with me hahaha.

Rick was ready in December of 2000 to marry me.  I was like “Not so Much” and “Back the Truck UP”.  You see, I had just recently come out of a very bad marriage already and sure wasn’t going to get married less than 3 months of knowing him.  I had never been “lucky in love” and ended up with some, let’s just say “not so nice” men and was very gun shy at this point.

Any how we married October 11th, 2001 and things between us were good.  Oh, don’t get me wrong, we’ve had our issues like any couple.  We are not perfect and yet we always managed to get through whatever life threw at us.  Like I said, him being the most patient person I ever met helped because I am a handful to say the least 😉

In 2003 my health started to decline and by 2005 I could no longer work.  This put a huge financial strain on us for sure.  I have watched, talked to and heard of relationships falling apart and dissolving when one spouse becomes disabled or is very ill.  I was terrified this would happen to us.  Fear set in along with my illness that he would get very tired of it all and walk out that door.  If he had of, I wouldn’t of blamed him.  It’s tough.

Never has he not been by my side through numerous surgeries, countless ER visits and hours of waiting, taking me to doctor appointments, being the only one working, running here and there, cleaning house, laundry, dishes, yard work and on and on.  He has NEVER made me feel guilty about being sick or said a harsh word to me.

My husband loves me through and through and has taken his vows very serious and boy has he proven time and time again the part of  “in sickness and in health”.   Many women say that THEY are the luckiest girl in the world and I’ll let them feel that way but in my eyes I truly am the luckiest.  I told my mother in law once “Thank you for raising such a wonderful man” and I say when he was born they broke the mold because I’ve never met a man such as Rick.

Honey, if you should read this…there just aren’t enough words to express how I feel about you and love you.  I am not sure what life would be like without you but I NEVER want to find out.  I know I’ve pushed your buttons and done some really stupid things and yet, you have always been the one person I really COULD count on and forgive my faults.  You’ve loved me as no other person or man in my life has and always it is true, unconditional love.  You are not just my spouse you are my true, best friend.

Love you dearly for as long as we both shall live,

Jamie

4 Responses to Ode To A Wonderful Man-Rick Volner Sr.

  1. Cheryl says:

    How blessed you both are to have found each other. My story is similar to yours in many ways…I met my husband in 2001 and we eloped after 8 months. There was a reason I had to wait so long to find him I believe. May you two have many, many happy years ahead of you! Your story is an inspiration!

    • Cheryl,

      Rick and I have this standing ‘joke’ because people have commented on our age difference. When I was 3 he was graduating from high school so he called me his “lady in waiting” so after all the frogs I had to go through the wait was well worth it. I am happy you have a wonderful man in your life too and may you both have so many years together as well! Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I appreciate it.

  2. Vicki Green says:

    Jamie,

    You are a very lucky woman and Rick is a very lucky man as well as one that deserves much respect and honor. Our husbands go through more than most when dealing with our health issues. My husband too became the sole provider, we struggled and still do financially, he is my right wing during my fight with disability, they also take on all the weight of the family onto their shoulders as do the children sometimes as they did in my family. They have never made me feel guilty for being sick, yet I apologize to them all daily for the burdern they carry as a result of my illnesses.

    You have been an inspiration to me, you give me hope when I’m ready to give up, thank you for being you.

    • Vicki,

      It makes my heart sing to hear stories of other couples making it in the face of FM. Men like ours are actually very hard to find and yet I was not looking this time and he found me and in so many ways he saved me from myself. I agree, the do go through so much and I love how you said your husband is your right wing. I understand about your family not making you feel guilty for being sick and yet you still apologize for their burdens that choose to bear. I do this myself. I grew up with a parent that anytime I got sick I was yelled at and accused of “getting sick on purpose” so it is ingrained in my head to apologize for what is beyond my control. I will say that Rick has laid most of that fear and need to rest.

      You are way to kind but if I have inspired you and give you hope that makes me very happy. You and many of the other girls do the very same for me.

      Brightest Blessing My Friend,
      Jamie

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